a. zac efron is really attractive.
b. people change, but they don't at the same time.
its like this. we have been talking about this lots in my philosophy class. do you think people are always themselves, or do they change depending on the situation? I think some core parts of us don't change, but over a course of years, you do change. its like this-obviously while you are in college, you arn't going to be the same person you were when you came into college as a freshman. Just think of high school, were you the same person you were as an awkward freshman? i sure hope not. same with college, people change and it is just a matter of if you change for the better and if the people you change with love you while you change, and before you change and after you change.
that is what will keep marriages in tact, and friendships still going, peoples ability to adapt to other peoples changes. and it hurts when people love you before the change and not after, but then you don't want to be around those people anyways-right?
i don't know i am just rambling but what it boils down to is, people are who they are, but they go through changes.
school is almost over, and it is a strange feeling. but i am 80% excited for the summer.
i think about this often.
ReplyDeletei for one, think about what the difference is between legitimate personality change, which i think happens slowly, and the "expression" of a personality, i.e. reacting differently around certain friends.
this is also interesting cuz i never considered how this pertains to marriages. several questions come to mind... do personalities change at a faster rate which is determinant on relational closeness (a close marriage, a distant marriage). additionally, is there a critical period where personality changes are more likely (13-18? 18-25?)
regardless, only those who weather ALL our personality changes are worthy to have the privilege of having an influence on us.